If you’ve just gone through a breakup with your girlfriend or wife and it is your desire to get her back here is some helpful advice that has worked for others. Breakups are painful and the hurt that you feel in your heart is inversely proportionate to the amount of love that you have for your partner. This means that if you didn’t feel any pain or longing there would be literally “no love lost” and no reason to work so hard to get her back. I will warn you that this many not be an easy road but with some discipline and courage you can indeed get your ex back.
Man Up – This breakup may be the most emotionally devastating thing that you have ever been through but it is time to be a man and at least act as if everything is fine. It is time to stop crying in your beer and being depressed about the current state of affairs and begin to live your life again. If you have been letting everyone know how upset you are over the breakup and about your desire to get your ex back in hope that she will hear how upset you are you need to stop this. Even if she does come back because she feels sorry for you the chances of her staying with you are slim to none.
There is a saying that goes something like “fake it ‘til you make it”. The fact is that if you force yourself to be happy and do things that make you happy eventually you will be happy. Soon your heart will reflect inwardly the appearance that you are trying to maintain on the outside. So, “man up” and start doing things that you know will make you happy. Go to a movie or buy yourself a present. Play the music that you love as loud as you want. Watch your favorite tv shows and eat the foods that perhaps you didn’t eat when you were with your ex. Love life and begin living it again starting today.
No Contact – Although it may go against your instinct and you might fear that your ex will forget about you or that you love her, contacting her by phone, email or text messaging will only be viewed as being annoying and needy. She broke up with you and right now she doesn’t want to hear from you. Yes, someday soon you will have the opportunity to talk with her to your heart’s content but for right now do not try to contact her.
Give her the opportunity to miss you and think about the choice that she has made. Allow her to be lonely. Eventually, the loneliness of being single again or not having you in her life anymore will begin to break her down and soon the good memories of times that the two of you spent together will creep back into her mind as she is naturally reminded of you. Give her the time and space to experience what life will really be like without you in it any longer.
Give The Appearance of Moving On – The “appearance” of moving on can easily be achieved by changing your routine. If there is a hobby that you have always wanted to try or something exciting that you’ve always wanted to do this is the time to jump in with both feet. By not being at home at times when you would normally be home you will create some mystery and there is a very good chance that your ex will assume that you have moved on and perhaps are dating someone new. Even if she has found someone else herself, the pangs of jealousy will begin to eat at her and perhaps make her reevaluate her decision to end your relationship.
Check out some classes at your local community college or maybe get a part time job or volunteer doing something that holds some interest for you. Get a gym membership or begin spending time at a hip coffee shop doing some people watching. Anything that you can do to vary your routine and bring some happiness into your life will be a good positive step. Sitting around the house being depressed waiting for her to show up at your door is not a worthwhile use of your time and energy.
If you take some of this helpful advice to heart you will find that you will survive this breakup much better and stand a better chance of getting your ex back. After all, would you want to get back together with someone that is happy and well adjusted or an emotional wreck? Be the strong man that she fell in love with in the beginning and you stand a much better chance of getting her back. After all, she fell in love with you once, why wouldn’t she fall in love with you again?
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