There is a popular motivational “guru” out there who has a book that deals with the power of intentionally doing things. I am not here to pimp his book or even talk about the broad subject of “intention” in your life or my life…but it struck me this morning as a good topic to write on concerning relationships and specifically for those guys who are hoping to win their girl back.
When a relationship ends there is a school of thought that one should sit back and allow things to happen. That if it is to be that it will be. I am sure that you have heard this saying many times and if you just went through a breakup I am positive that someone has preached this to you on at least one occasion….set him or her free and if it’s meant to be…blah blah blah…
I don’t know about you but I tend to be a little bit more “proactive” when it comes to things in my life that are important to me. I want to do something to try to resolve an issue since benign neglect is perhaps one of the reasons why you are in this situation. You simply can’t just sit there and wait…you want something to do. You need a game plan or roadmap that will show you how to win her back.
That is where “intention” comes into play. It is your intention to repair your relationship and get your ex back or try to do something to rebuild your relationship. Now, why is this such a horrible thing or why should it be viewed as “underhanded” or “manipulative” to wish to rebuild something that “once upon a time” was one of the most important things in your life? For instance, say you know that your ex likes you in the color blue and it tends to bring out your eyes. Would it be underhanded to wear blue the next time you see them? Let’s say that you know that, although they are angry with you or resistant to talk to you, that they might be more likely to talk with you and that their feelings for you might well up in their heart again if they saw you out shopping with your friends. Would it be considered manipulative or underhanded or a “dirty psychological trick” if you scheduled your shopping trip during the hours that they work at the mall, for instance? Some might say “yes” while others might say “no.”
What if your intentions were never known…whether you did something or said something or acted in a certain way without the intention of trying to bring about a certain outcome? Should your intentions be important if the outcome is the same either way?...whether you intentionally bring about a reaction in your mate or unintentionally bring about the same reaction when trying to win her back. If both parties wind up happy in the end and a marriage or loving relationship that has gone awry is mended shouldn’t the party that moved forward with intention be commended? I think so…you should not be looked down upon for wanting to get back together with your ex.
Why is it that one action is acceptable over another action when trying to rebuild a relationship if one partner is not in a state of mind where they are receptive to rekindling a relationship? For instance….forcing a partner to go to a therapist or counseling sessions never seems to work if one partner is not interested in mending the relationship yet this is the most often given answer to those who ask “what can I do to repair my relationship?” As a matter of fact, the other party typically becomes indignant and the wedge is further driven between the couple for all the effort. While on the other hand, a carefully laid out plan that take takes into consideration the other mate’s psychology might be considered before the “tried and true” approach that almost always ends in failure.
To learn more about female psychology and how to use it with intention to rebuild your relationship check out “Matt Huston’s Ex Squared System” for a tried and true solution to your relationship problems.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Monday, June 22, 2009
Matt Huston's Ex Squared System - Dirty Psychological Tricks or Simply What Women Have Been Doing For Centuries?
I came across a relationship book that is very different than many of the others out there right now and I felt the need to comment on it. My views my not be as popular with the ladies as I might wish but I feel the need to be truthful and honest so here goes….
The book is called “The Ex Squared System” and it is written my Matt Huston, who has been nicknamed “The Exgirlfriend Guru.” Matt’s book and accompanying materials, including the “Train Your Girlfriend Manual” have caused quite a stir for a few reasons.
First, the “Ex Squared System” claims to allow you to win your girlfriend back in record time by the use of “dirty psychological tricks.” I know that I was a bit taken back by this and pondered first the ethics of using such information in a supposed loving relationship. For me the thought of intentionally pushing a woman’s psychological hot buttons in an attempt to influence her romantically just seemed wrong.
Second, the effectiveness of The Ex Squared System has been documented as being phenomenal and in a study of men that used Matt Huston’s book to attempt to win back a girlfriend the success rate was seen to be over 80 percent.
So, we can see that there is no doubt that this book is a very effective tool in repairing a relationship that has gone awry. The problem remains and the controversy arises when people feel that it is wrong or unethical to use female psychology when trying to win back a girlfriend.
The fact is, and this is where the women who might be reading this article are going to get upset…women have been using tactics like this long before Matt Huston ever wrote The Ex Squared System. Women have also been “training” men for as long as there has been marriage so a book about “How to Train Your Girlfriend” is nothing new.
As a matter of fact, the ways in which women “train” their husbands or boyfriends is a popular topic that women share with each other all the time….how to get your man to do this or that…how to get him to take the trash out….how to get him to buy you flowers…how to get him to commit to a relationship. This is nothing new people!
So my question to you is, why is it suddenly unethical or “wrong” for men to start to use the same tactics that woman have been using for generations to gain some control in a relationship? Why is it ok for a woman to flirt and tease a man in order to get him to commit in a relationship while it is suddenly unethical and wrong for a man to do the same? Why can a woman use another man to make her ex jealous in an attempt to lure him back but it is wrong for a man to do anything even approaching such tactics and use such psychological tricks?
The simple truth is that men just don’t play games like this and it is new to them. Men, for the most part are “what you see is what you get” but women are master of psychological manipulation and it is accepted by our society…but perhaps not for any longer!
The fact is that what is good for the gander is good for the goose. The fact is that women have been using dirty psychological tricks long before Matt Huston was ever even born but I can feel the tide changing…
The book is called “The Ex Squared System” and it is written my Matt Huston, who has been nicknamed “The Exgirlfriend Guru.” Matt’s book and accompanying materials, including the “Train Your Girlfriend Manual” have caused quite a stir for a few reasons.
First, the “Ex Squared System” claims to allow you to win your girlfriend back in record time by the use of “dirty psychological tricks.” I know that I was a bit taken back by this and pondered first the ethics of using such information in a supposed loving relationship. For me the thought of intentionally pushing a woman’s psychological hot buttons in an attempt to influence her romantically just seemed wrong.
Second, the effectiveness of The Ex Squared System has been documented as being phenomenal and in a study of men that used Matt Huston’s book to attempt to win back a girlfriend the success rate was seen to be over 80 percent.
So, we can see that there is no doubt that this book is a very effective tool in repairing a relationship that has gone awry. The problem remains and the controversy arises when people feel that it is wrong or unethical to use female psychology when trying to win back a girlfriend.
The fact is, and this is where the women who might be reading this article are going to get upset…women have been using tactics like this long before Matt Huston ever wrote The Ex Squared System. Women have also been “training” men for as long as there has been marriage so a book about “How to Train Your Girlfriend” is nothing new.
As a matter of fact, the ways in which women “train” their husbands or boyfriends is a popular topic that women share with each other all the time….how to get your man to do this or that…how to get him to take the trash out….how to get him to buy you flowers…how to get him to commit to a relationship. This is nothing new people!
So my question to you is, why is it suddenly unethical or “wrong” for men to start to use the same tactics that woman have been using for generations to gain some control in a relationship? Why is it ok for a woman to flirt and tease a man in order to get him to commit in a relationship while it is suddenly unethical and wrong for a man to do the same? Why can a woman use another man to make her ex jealous in an attempt to lure him back but it is wrong for a man to do anything even approaching such tactics and use such psychological tricks?
The simple truth is that men just don’t play games like this and it is new to them. Men, for the most part are “what you see is what you get” but women are master of psychological manipulation and it is accepted by our society…but perhaps not for any longer!
The fact is that what is good for the gander is good for the goose. The fact is that women have been using dirty psychological tricks long before Matt Huston was ever even born but I can feel the tide changing…
Check out Matt Huston’s Ex Squared System in more detail at http://www.consumerproductsoverview.com/recommends/exsquaredsystem and to compare it against other relationship books on the market go to http://www.consumerproductsoverview.com
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