Your partner has broken up with you and you want to get her back. First… relax! This isn’t the end of the world and with a little persistence and a good solid plan that has worked for others you can get her back easily.
Although each situation is different and the amount of time it’s going to take to get her back will depend upon many variables this is a good basic plan that will help you get on the right path to getting her back in your life once again.
Break Off Contact – It is important that you break off all contact with your ex for a period of time. Typically, a month is suggested but it doesn’t always take this long. If you have done a lot of damage to your relationship by contacting her obsessively it may take a little bit longer but it is important not to make excuses to contact her. This time is essential for a few reasons. It is important that you give her time to begin to miss you. Even if she is still talking with you it is important that you not make this breakup easy for her. She is used to having you around and it is possible that she feels bad about the breakup and by staying in contact with her she won’t feel bad about breaking up with you. Give her time to become lonely and really miss you.
Also, if you’re contacting her you are killing your chances of getting her back. In her eyes you probably appear needy and weak. It may be very difficult to keep from contacting her but if you really want to get her back it is important that you follow this step to the letter. Anything worth having is worth suffering for and short term pain for long term gain. Ok?
Get Your Life Back – It is time to get your life back and to pull yourself back together. There will be no more sitting on the couch crying over the breakup. There will be no more talking to friends and family about what went wrong. You are going to start living your life again and you are going to get back to being the guy that she fell in love with. Do you see that there is nothing to be upset over any longer? Just down the road she is going to be back with you so there’s nothing to worry about and nothing to get upset about.
Take this time to do something that you have always dreamed of. Think of an experience that you always wanted to have and do it. Go on a trip or take up a hobby that you have always dreamed of. If you don’t have the money to go on the trip or to take up that hobby that you always wanted to check out, pick up a part time job for a short period of time and make that dream a reality. Do what is going to make you happy over the next month or so. Once the time is up and you are back together again you will have some really cool stories to tell her. Also, the fact that you are living your life will make her wonder if you really do miss her or care about her and that will drive her crazy. How will she find out? Typically, women will check in on you to see what you’re doing. She may ask friends or family members. And when she does she will wonder what’s going on and why you’re not sitting at home crying over her any more.
Re-initiate Contact – After a month or so is up you can reinitiate contact with your ex if she hasn’t contacted you already. The longer you wait though the more powerful the attraction will be once she does hear your voice again or see you again. When you talk to her you can just say that you’re calling to see if she is ok. If you have any news about friends or family members you can talk about that with her. Keep the first conversation short and make sure you’re the one that ends the call. Avoid talking about the breakup or any issues that you two might have had that led to the breakup. You don’t want to appear as if you are calling her to beg for her to come back to you. You are just checking up on her to make sure she is ok since you haven’t heard from her in a while and if nothing else you always felt that the two of you could remain good friends.
End the call and wait for her to contact you back. It may take a few days or even a week or two but you can be sure that she is thinking about you. Before long the lines of communication will open again and you can begin to rebuild your relationship.
This may be a difficult task for you to follow through with but in the long run it will be worth it. These steps are the basic steps that have helped many men get their partner back and they should help you to get her back quite easily.
For a more detailed step by step plan that has worked for thousands of guys we recommend Matt Huston’s Ex Squared System. Find out how to use psychological hot buttons and dirty psychological tricks to get her back in the shortest time possible.
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